Wednesday, 22 June 2016

Everybody's free to wear sunscreen

Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97
Wear sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back
At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine

Don't worry about the future
Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. On some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you
Saying, don't be reckless with other people's hearts
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours
Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults, if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You'll miss them when they're gone
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken'
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either

Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don't follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly
Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future
Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old
And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And children respected their elders
Respect your elders
Don't expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run out
Never mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you're 40 it will look 85
Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it's worth
But trust me on the sunscreen
Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Everybody see it oh yeah yeah
Everybody see it oh yeah
He want you to feel good 

"Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young", commonly known by the title "Wear Sunscreen",[ is an essay written as a hypothetical commencement speech bycolumnist Mary Schmich, originally published in June 1997 in the Chicago Tribune. The essay, giving various pieces of advice on how to live a happier life and avoid common frustrations, spread massively via viral email, often erroneously described as a commencement speech given by author Kurt Vonnegut at MIT.

Friday, 17 June 2016

7 years of partnership

7 years of partnership

  • You know its been seven years when your 4 year old sings happy birthday song while you cut your anniversary cake. And claims that it’s his birthday cake. Then when you try and explain that its mamma papa’s anniversary cake he lies down crying “why you guys didn’t invite me in your wedding? Where was I? You look into your partners’ eyes and you both say “never mind kid, it’s your birthday cake.” And now everyone is happy.

  • You know it’s been a long time when you give your partner a helmet for safe cycling and get a fitbit to lose the extra kilos accumulated around your belly.

  • You know its seventh anniversary when your friends attending your party are more excited than you. They click photographs of both of you. And after the party ends and you look at  those pics you can totally feel the exhausted smile on your face.

  • You know its been seven years when your friends wish you a happy anniversary and ask “so how many years” And you say “7 years” with a sigh, as if those 7 years were like 70 minutes (underwater)

  • You know that it’s been seven years when you gift your husband a card quoting “being married is like having a best friend who doesn’t remember anything you say”

Joking apart, husband happy anniversary to you ….trust me, I am the best chance you could ever have ;)
 We have come such a long distance. We can cover rest of it too.
Happy anniversary partner. J

Saturday, 9 January 2016


Sometimes you find a  moment;
a moment of silence
a moment where you do not have  to play a role;
you do not have to pretend to be someone
a moment to sit back and relax

Sometimes you find a place
a place to stroll freely
without caring whose ahead and whose left behind
a place where freedom can be relived

Sometime you find some people
whose eyes are happy and
smiles are real
with whom you can be carefree
they won't judge you or stop you
but will be with you

Sometimes you travel
you get a journey
that does not promise you to take somewhere
but may take you to
'some people'
'some places'
and 'some moments'
that you will cherish for your lifetime

P.S.   It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.
        Ernest Hemingway 

Saturday, 3 October 2015

Wading lonely

The soul is so lonely
It watches everyone passing by
No one to look at her
No one to smile
Wide open eyes full of tears
but allows only one drop to roll down

Sitting on the rock
at the sea shore
The thuds of winds
and the roar of the sea
sun in the middle of something
its dusk or dawn I can't see

walking is my fate
leaving not a choice
shackled my limbs
refuses to perform
wind is so strong flowing
against the will
I am trying so hard 
but still

Its nothing but hope
that's drives me forward
kept me alive
waiting for the dawn

Saturday, 22 August 2015

Somewhere inside...

Extricate the wrong and right
At the brink is the exasperation
in the sticks is the inspiration
thoughts are dim and mystified
How reluctant and fossilized they are !

My eyes plead for clarity
Thoughts request sublimity,
Classicism at its best
 Tranquil soul, mind at rest

Pursuit is tough
but in close proximity
Its somewhere inside
Lets close our eyes and try to see

Wednesday, 12 August 2015

Starting Fresh

Starting fresh....

                         Pulling yourself out from all the bewilderment, social stigma, invisible pressure of whats wrong and whats right is not easy every time. The feeling of freedom and independence form our own thought process, where you consider others more important than yourself ,sometimes seems far fetched.
                         Sometimes we get tried of giving explanations,explanations for failure ,explanations for fear, explanation for imperfections. But if  we pause for a moment and think that instead of sitting there and pondering over what has happened, why not start fresh.

                           Being happy sometimes takes lots of effort.sometimes you may feel that you are misfit among people around you, but once for a while give it a chance.Keep reminding yourself that you are important to yourself .Life is a gift, an opportunity to make those left years in your life count. For a while stop thinking about everybody else's concerns. Be calm ,breathe,smile, close your eyes and just let your soul wander away from the complexities of life.

                         I know it needs lot of courage and patience to start fresh in life, the peace you get after it is worth is worth it.

"Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight."